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Food for thought

Seeing as how this is a community for, of and about snarky slash writers, I thought some of you might find this interesting. This is a letter--and response--from the column Savage Love though it is talking about "porn" in the sense of videos and not smut writing.

Yes, I am a straight American boy who likes to drink beer, fuck women, eat pussy, and watch girl-on-girl porn. But I do have a question for you: If guys like girl-on-girl action so much, why don't women watch men having sex in porn more often? In fact, it seems that it doesn't turn them on at all like the converse does men. Do you know?
Curious About Turn-Ons

I tried to give gay male sex a rest this week—really, I did—but too many of my straight male readers are obsessed.

Anyway, I've heard from lots of women who enjoy watching gay male porn—including many lesbians, bizarrely enough. The women who dig gay porn say the guys are better-looking and the action is hotter. Of course, women watching guy-on-guy porn will never be a cultural phenomenon on the level of straight men watching girl-on-girl porn, because women don't consume as much porn as men do. "Men are more turned on by visuals" is a cliché because it's true: Men are more turned on by visuals.

Still, even if women "consumed" porn at the same rate men do, boy-on-boy porn would never be as popular with straight women as girl-on-girl porn is with straight men. Here's why: Straight people who watch gay or lesbian porn project their own ideas about sex onto the action. In straight life, as in straight porn, it's all about penetration. A straight guy can watch a pair of "lesbians" getting it on and think, "Something is missing..." What's missing, of course, is cock—his cock—for while there are holes to penetrate, there's nothing with which to penetrate them. So the straight guy can watch the girls, lust after them, and imagine himself walking in and "completing" the picture.

When a straight woman looks at gay male porn, on the other hand, nothing is missing. There are holes, there are cocks, and nothing much is missing. A woman can bring a third mouth into the action, or a third butthole, or her vagina, but the addition of her body doesn't make penetration possible, thereby completing the picture, since two guys can penetrate each other just fine, thanks, without a woman around.

Finally, yes, yes, I know: Lesbians can and do penetrate each other with all manner of things, from strap-ons to forearms to Dodge Durangos. But we're talking about "lesbian" porn, not real lesbians.
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